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A Warning For Every Marriage (Proverbs 5; Galatians 4)

March 18, 2014

“Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well.”  Proverbs 5:16

The day of the wedding was awesome.  Both husband and wife stood before the minister with intoxicating love for each other. The couple exchanged vows and rings.  The coming together of two lives into one life was clear for all to see.  Everyone thought, “This couple will be the model couple for the world to see.”  But a few years later this same couple stood before a judge in divorce court.  The wife stood there with tears in her eyes and her husband stood there with a blank stare.

Question:  “What happened to this couple?” Answer, “They failed to heed the warning given by Solomon.”

Proverbs chapter five continues to drip with the foundational truth of God’s Word, “Seek wisdom and understanding from God.”

Solomon gives us in chapter 5 wisdom concerning one particular attack against the family.  This attack is known as adultery.  Solomon gives a strong command in this chapter:  “Stay away from adultery.”

In Verses 3-11 we see a description of how the process of not staying away unfolds.  Some believe this downfall begins with the act, but Solomon teaches us that it begins with the attraction.  When a person ceases to be attracted to God’s wisdom, his or her heart begins to wander from what is right.  “I did not listen to the voice of my teachers or incline my ear to my instructors.”

Warning:  “There are those who read this blog without even the slightest thought that they are in danger of this very sin.”

Solomon wrote of such a person:  “I am at the brink of utter ruin in the assembled congregation.”

Heed Solomon’s warning, “pay attention to God’s Word.”

When you and I pay attention to God’s Word we discover the following:

1.  Love the wife of your youth, Vs: 15-18

Solomon is speaking about loving the one you started with.  Never take your eyes and heart off the one whom you held by the hand at the start.

Certainly there are those who read this in whom have gone through brokenness and have now been given a second-chance.  This applies to the one you have been given a second-chance with. Love your spouse with a sincere love.

2.  Daily invest in the wife of your youth, Vs: 19

Every day investigate and invest in the one you love.  I can honestly say that after almost 22 years I am more in love with Sherry than I was the day we were married.  The reasons why span the story of 22 years of growing in love and growing in awe of who she is in Christ.

I leave you with Solomon’s challenge, “Be intoxicated always in her love.”

After All These Years

May 6, 2010

This morning’s devotions covered the last two chapters of Ecclesiastes and also the book of Song Of Solomon.  I was amazed at how this man who had so much wisdom would come to the end of his life and be far from what his life was supposed to be.  The bible records in I Kings 11, “Many women turned his heart away from God.”

I am also amazed as I examine the lives of many marriages today.  It seems for some people, “The longer they are married the farther apart they grow.”  Adrian Rogers put it this way, “Sometimes it seems that when our marriages get older that they get colder.”

The book of Song of Solomon is anything but a cold book. This book is a red hot story of two people who are in love with each other.  Here is a sampling, “How fair is your love, my sister, my spouse! How much better than wine is your love, and the scent of your perfumes than all spices,” 4:10.  Here we find Solomon in love with a young lady and the entire book tells their love story.

But there is something strangely absent, “Did they still love each other at the end of life?”  The real challenge of marriage is not to love in the beginning.  The real challenge is to love in the end.  I often hear and even experience couples who bail out or become embittered as marriages go through rough times.  Some even go as far as saying,” I just fell out of love with him or her.”

Herein lies the problem, “Love has to be cultivated every day.”  Without cultivation love will become weedy and the fruit will no longer be able to grow because it will be choked out.

Maybe you ask, “How does a person cultivate love?” It begins with genuine love for the Lord,  Unless we are daily submitting to His love we will not love those around us, Ephesians 5:22-31.  It continues with a genuine effort to focus on meeting the needs of your spouse.  As you focus on their needs, you recapture all God has blessed you with in having your mate, Genesis 2:18-25.  Finally you must daily cultivate the weeds of hurt feelings and misunderstandings, Ephesians 4:25-27.  Make sure you never go to sleep without getting the weeds out.

I can honestly say, after 19 years of marriage, Sherry and I have discovered these three principles to be the key to deeper and deeper love after all of these years. So no matter if you are just getting started in marriage, if you are someday thinking about marriage, or you have been married a long time, focus on growing your marriage as God intends and you will be guaranteed success because you did it His way!

I leave you with precious word of the Lord, ” Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth.  As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love,” Proverbs 5:18-19.