Hope For Dysfunctional Families (II Samuel 14, II Corinthians 7)

“But God will not take away life, and he devises means so that the banished one will not remain an outcast.”  II Samuel 14:14

“For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death,” II Corinthians 7:10.

The family found itself in cardiac arrest.  Despite all the financial resources any one could imagine and despite all the wisdom of God-given to them, this family could not get it together.  The dysfunction is now in its third year and it will not get better in the next two years.  This sounds much like a modern-day sitcom or sadly an accurate account of many families.

However, this is not a modern-day sitcom.  This is the story of the family life of King David.  In this chapter we see David as a father who choses to do nothing about the rebellion of his wayward son Absalom.  In his spirit (13:38) David wanted the dysfunction to end, but he could not bring himself to make things right.  Notice what happens:

1.  We see the intervention of a friend

The captain of David’s army (Joab) seeks to help his friend. This leads to Absalom being allowed to come back to his country, but he is still not allowed to come to his father.

2.  We see the intervention of the son

Now the son takes matters into his own hand.  Now David receives his son.  However the chapter ends with no reconciliation.

Think it through:

1.  How can anyone be reconciled to someone who has hurt them or has hurt others?

2.  What dangers lie ahead for those who have hatred in their hearts.

God’s answers:

1.  Only God can lead us to a place of reconciliation.  Here we see this in 14: 14, “God has a place.”  This is a picture of our need of bringing everything to Jesus, Matthew 11:28-29.  This is a picture of how Jesus alone is our refuge and strength to walk through such moments, Joel 3:16.  As we sit at His feet, we discover His mercy toward us and we discover the strength to give mercy to others.

2.  Destruction lies ahead of every person who remains in dysfunction.  David’s own son would try to take the kingdom from him (II Samuel 15).  Only Christ can change all of this.  This happens in the church as well.  The needed answer must be Jesus (II Corinthians 7:10).

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