The Agony Of Confrontation

No one, in their right mind, loves confrontation.  Consider having to sit down with someone to point out error in their life is not a welcomed assignment.  But it is a much-needed assignment for the development of our lives as followers of Christ.

Consider the Apostle Paul, “For if I made you grieve with my letter, I do not regret it-though I did regret it, for I see that that letter grieved you, though only for a while.” II Cor 8:9. Paul is here making reference to a previous letter, I Corinthians, that he had written dealing with the problems in the church.

Certainly Paul did not want to have to speak harsh words of judgment against this church, but it was necessary.  Brothers and sisters it is also necessary for us to both be confronted and  to confront sin.  When we have sin, maybe even unaware, we need someone’s loving confrontation so that we might be restored in our walk with Christ.  When others are in sin, we need to lovingly confront them so that they may be restored in their walk with Christ.

The Apostle Paul clearly understood this truth, “As it is, I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because you were grieved into repentance.  For you felt a godly grief, so that you suffered no loss through us,” II Cor. 7:9.  Brothers and sisters there will always be agony in confrontation but be assured Godly sorrow produces repentance that will not be regretted.

So if you are a mother who is struggling with the daily confrontational grind with your children?  Take heart because God is in this and it will pay off in the end.  If you are a brother or sister in Christ who is being led to biblically confront a brother and sister, do it for the glory of the Lord.  If you have been confronted by another brother, seek to know what God is saying in this moment.

Finally, I think it is important that each of us have people in our lives who will always genuinely, gently, and graciously confront us with sin.  Unless we have those people in our lives we will become believers who never understand the true process of sanctification. Certainly this is not easy, but it is necessary.

Weekly I meet with people who confront me and sometimes I really don’t like it and there are days when I run from it, but I have to say, at the end it was worth the agony.  So be encouraged today in knowing that even in the agony of confrontation we find God at work for His glory and for our good.

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