After All These Years

This morning’s devotions covered the last two chapters of Ecclesiastes and also the book of Song Of Solomon.  I was amazed at how this man who had so much wisdom would come to the end of his life and be far from what his life was supposed to be.  The bible records in I Kings 11, “Many women turned his heart away from God.”

I am also amazed as I examine the lives of many marriages today.  It seems for some people, “The longer they are married the farther apart they grow.”  Adrian Rogers put it this way, “Sometimes it seems that when our marriages get older that they get colder.”

The book of Song of Solomon is anything but a cold book. This book is a red hot story of two people who are in love with each other.  Here is a sampling, “How fair is your love, my sister, my spouse! How much better than wine is your love, and the scent of your perfumes than all spices,” 4:10.  Here we find Solomon in love with a young lady and the entire book tells their love story.

But there is something strangely absent, “Did they still love each other at the end of life?”  The real challenge of marriage is not to love in the beginning.  The real challenge is to love in the end.  I often hear and even experience couples who bail out or become embittered as marriages go through rough times.  Some even go as far as saying,” I just fell out of love with him or her.”

Herein lies the problem, “Love has to be cultivated every day.”  Without cultivation love will become weedy and the fruit will no longer be able to grow because it will be choked out.

Maybe you ask, “How does a person cultivate love?” It begins with genuine love for the Lord,  Unless we are daily submitting to His love we will not love those around us, Ephesians 5:22-31.  It continues with a genuine effort to focus on meeting the needs of your spouse.  As you focus on their needs, you recapture all God has blessed you with in having your mate, Genesis 2:18-25.  Finally you must daily cultivate the weeds of hurt feelings and misunderstandings, Ephesians 4:25-27.  Make sure you never go to sleep without getting the weeds out.

I can honestly say, after 19 years of marriage, Sherry and I have discovered these three principles to be the key to deeper and deeper love after all of these years. So no matter if you are just getting started in marriage, if you are someday thinking about marriage, or you have been married a long time, focus on growing your marriage as God intends and you will be guaranteed success because you did it His way!

I leave you with precious word of the Lord, ” Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth.  As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love,” Proverbs 5:18-19.

One Response to “After All These Years”

  1. Selena Says:

    good good his post deserves nothing 😦 hahaha just joking 😛 �nice post 😛

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